Archive - June, 2010

Jesus, An Activist

Seth Barnes tells it like it is. No fluff. No apologies. This article hit home. Especially the following: “Many advocacy groups have formed to “raise awareness.” But how many groups have formed to actually do something about this issue?” It never occurred to me that one can get comfortable just ‘talking’ about how bad the tragedies are or how something needs to change.

As Seth says, don’t be afraid of a little controversy to stand up for what’s right!

Seth is the executive director of Adventures In Missions — an organization that sends people on short-term mission trips around the world. He lives in Gainesville, GA with his wife Karen. You can visit his blog “Radical Living in a Comfortable World” at sethbarnes.com.

Sex Trade – We Need More Activists

Jesus was an activist. He stirred things up. He made people mad. He took on the existing social order. Following him was often a stressful proposition.

Which raises the question: Are you more of an activist or a student? The word “activist” acquired some odd connotations in the 60′s.  People correlated activism to hippies organizing campus sit-ins.

But true activists are rare; most people are more cautious by nature. Trying to change the existing social order can be painful.

At the same time, insofar as activists are about addressing injustice, we need more of them.  We need people who recognize that controversy is a necessary by-product of their efforts.

One of my favorite activist illustrations comes from the Civil War.  At the outset, General McClellan was in charge of preparing the Union army to fight.  He did a great job of drilling them.  The problem was, he could never put the machine he’d created into gear.

Lincoln got frustrated; in his gut he felt he needed to engage the confederates sooner rather than later.  He’s reported to have quipped to McClellan, “If you’re not going to use the army, could I at least borrow it?”

When the season comes to act, further preparation is counterproductive. Once a pastor friend of mine saw a vision of me helping lead an army into battle.  They were marching in lockstep, but were still putting on their uniforms as they went. They had a bias toward action as opposed to preparation.

We need more people with a bias toward action.  When, fresh out of college, I was challenged to establish a microcredit agency in Indonesia, I didn’t go get a degree first; I learned on the field.  What I learned was practical – I put it to use right away. Nowadays a lot of people feel they have to get an advanced degree before they can do microcredit work overseas.*

For example, look at the sex trade in Thailand and Cambodia. Many advocacy groups have formed to “raise awareness.” But how many groups have formed to actually do something about this issue? In the fall, we’ll be sending a team of five women to live in Cambodia for two years. They’ll learn the language and go into bars and work to get 14 and 15 year-old girls out of those horrible places.

They’ve watched enough videos and read enough articles. They’re lacing their boots as they go (go here to read their team leader’s blog). They have looked at the sex trade and determined that something has to change. They are ready to put their lives on the line. They are activists.

Where have you been preparing long enough? Where do you need to act?

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Hope Is FOUND!!!!

We have sponsored a young girl, Siphiwe, for over a year now through Children’s HopeChest. HopeChest along with Adventures in Missions has 19 Carepoint Sites through Swaziland, Africa. Siphiwe comes daily to the Beveni Carepoint along with 131 other orphaned and vulnerable children.

The Beveni Carepoint is where the children receive food (usually their only meal of the day), clothing & medical treatment if needed, education & love because of the committed workers who run the Carepoint, but also because they have sponsors who give $34 a month to Children’s HopeChest that sees to it these individual children are cared for body, soul & spirit.

Sponsorship is a $34 a month commitment, with the opportunity to communicate with a sweet, but needy child via letters & translation of emails by Children’s HopeChest. Please contact me, Danielle, to begin to change a life & be their HOPE!  danielle.moms4change@gmail.com Thank you!!! You won’t regret it.

These six children were in need of new sponsors, but in a few short weeks, families stepped up & stepped in to support them both financially & with love. Thank you sponsors for being HOPE!

Won’t you be the change 4 a child’s life?

SPONSORED on 07.21.2010 Thokozani, age 13, lives about 15 minutes from our carepoint with nine other children. He enjoys sports, singing, agriculture, and reading to name a few. If you can support Thokozani, please message or email me. I have more details about him & how sponsorship works. danielle.moms4change@gmail.com THX

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SPONSORED on 06.29.2010 Little Bukiwe is about 6 years old. Her personality is best described as active, composed, introverted, and competitive. Know any other little girls like this!? :)

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SPONSORED on 07.01.2010 Nomcebo is a beautiful 16 year old girl who lives a 20 minute walk from our carepoint. She likes singing, dancing, cooking and reading, among other things. She is described as good-natured, introverted and sensitive.

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SPONSORED on 07.12.2010 Zandile is about 8 years old. Her current home is about one hour’s walk from Beveni each day. She is described as composed, friendly, and curious. If you can support Zandile, please message or email me. I have more details about her & how sponsorship works. danielle.moms4change@gmail.com THX

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SPONSORED on 07.12.2010 Mhlengi is 19 years old and in the 11th grade. He lives with his aunt and 6 other children. He is described as an extrovert and competitive. If you can support Mhlengi, please message or email me. I have more details about him & how sponsorship works. danielle.moms4change@gmail.com THX

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SPONSORED on 07.12.2010 Mduduzi is about 14 years old. He lives about 20 minutes from the Beveni Carepoint. He lives with his parents & eight other children. He is in the 5th or 6th grade now.  If you can support Mduduzi, please message or email me. I have more details about him & how sponsorship works. danielle.moms4change@gmail.com THX

Moms – here’s your chance to become HOPE to another child, who needs love & care just as your own do.

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Public Humiliation Bites

My kids are at the zoo. {Shout out to the Gpa & Gma! Holla!!!}

I’m guessing they’ll see a few of our relatives there, specifically in the orangutan exhibit. No, I’m not an evolutionist, but boy those animals sure look like my long lost Uncle Emmett, with less hair.

2 shots of public humiliation with that, please!

While the kids are at the zoo, I’m sitting here looking for inspiration at another zoo of sorts. Barnes & Noble Cafe. Have you seen some of the people who frequent this joint? Me included. This is great content just waiting to be written!

One table across the way has caught my eye & ear. Allow me to briefly set the scene. A girl, probably 19, skinny with a very low-cut scarlet red shirt. A boy, who looks like Twilight’s Jacob (and seems to know it). And then there’s the gal that completes the trio. I’ll call her Wanda. She’s middle-aged. Short unkempt hair, glasses & a classic pair of mom jeans. {I think they saw me staring, cuz they just left} Oh well, more wi-fi for me! Just kidding.

The two youngsters (I can say that cuz I’m in my mid-thirties) Scarlet & Jacob pull out their PC laptops. Not even MacBooks!  That should’ve been a clue that something was about to go very wrong. They spend the next 40 minutes explaining to Wanda how Facebook works. They hold nothing back. Scarlet even decides to set Wanda up with a FB account, on the spot. How thoughtful.

While I’m trying to find inspiration from heaven, and look completely interested in what I’m not doing, I hear bits & pieces of their conversation. I can not believe how condescending Scarlet’s teaching methods come across. And I’m shocked that Wanda lets it happen! Wanda even dares touch the laptop much to the loud chagrin of Scarlet. The entire B&N Cafe hears, “Don’t move it like that! Unless you want to buy me a new one!” Jacob chuckles. Wanda doesn’t.

Why am I telling you this? Because I’m Scarlet. Not literally. But I act like Scarlet & her sidekick Jacob, specifically with my kids. I know I do. Even in public, I talk down to them like I’m the Great and Powerful Oz possessing of all the world’s knowledge and they just arrived from Kansas with their little dog.

I often resent the “why?” I get asked at least 27 times a day.

Even though these two were actually taking time with her, I felt so bad for Wanda. She just wanted to learn how to use FaceBook. I don’t think she ordered up a shot of arrogance & public humiliation with her tutorial.

Next time someone needs our help let’s remember a few things :

  • I am not Oz. I am not superior because I have knowledge.
  • The person (including our kids & parents) are not stupid. Everyone deserves respect.
  • There are still things we need to learn. I think we reap what we sow. Let’s sow patience & understanding when we want to flaunt how much they don’t know!

So yeah, I feel like I pried into the lives of strangers. I kind of did. But I learned an important lesson during my time of people-watching at the local Barnes & Noble Zoo. When we talk down to people – our kids, the waitress, our parents, our co-workers, we do nothing to lift ourselves up. When we patronize, we look ridiculous & I can guarantee our help will not be solicited twice. Let’s teach the way we want to be taught, with patience, kindness, and encouragement.

I’d love to hear your perspective. Have you ever been on the receiving end of public humiliation?

Shine On Sisters!

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SOS! Does This Blog Make My Cow’s Butt Look Big?

It's Huge, isn't it? You can be completely honest...

We’re all friends here right?

Our very own Berta Mae has been helping me redecorate Moms4Change!

She suggested I add a more ‘natural organic’ look to the blog. You know, so everyone feels relaxed & at home.

So as my official research cow (you can read more of her research HERE & THERE), it’s only right that I let her continue her research.

Two questions:

(Berta Mae loves to chew on constructive criticism)

1. How does the layout of the blog look on your screen? Is it proportioned correctly?

2. How is the overall blog functioning when you click through?

Please be as detailed as you’d like. We want Moms4Change to ROCK for you!

To all current subscribers: You should  have received an email from feedburner requesting that you activate your subscription. If you haven’t already, please activate now so that you can get all M4C’s late-breaking news delivered to your inbox-step!

Berta Mae, Research Cow Extraordinaire, is HUNGRY!

To the rest of you: If you haven’t subscribed via email or RSS yet, don’t let this post frighten you or cause you to run away in terror from M4C. We are all about the serious business of motherhood and making a difference in the world around us. Seriously. Berta Mae just has a warped sense of humor sometimes. Who am I to stop her?

Milkin’ it for all it’s worth!

Danielle & Berta Mae

Disclaimer: I do not like cows. I actually have cowphobia. I literally was chased by a mad cow when I was a little girl and I’ve never gotten over it. Berta Mae is the only cow that’s ever won me over. She’s that good.

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Moms Around The World

Think you’re so different?

Wonder how other moms around the world raise their kids & make time for themselves?

Here is a sneak peek into the lives of 5 moms from five different countries – Brazil, Jordan, Singapore, the Netherlands, and South Africa. I think you’ll find that women/moms are very, very similar no matter what continent they live on, or what language they speak.

Moms Around the World

How would you answer some of these same questions?

My favorite thing about being a Mom…

One of the hardest things about being a Mom is…

For dinner last night, we ate…

I love that the first mom from Brazil says that Brazilian men don’t do much to help around the house, even though many moms now work outside the home too. Sound familiar? :)

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Are You The World's Worst Mother?

What if you won the Worst Mother Ever award?

Lindsay Lohan’s mom did. How awful is that?

It was bestowed upon her by TMZ, a celeb gossip/news company (okay, technically from an online poll TMZ held). TMZ is not known for their excellence in journalism, but they are well-known & have a sizable following. And now Dina Lohan is known. Not just for being famous LiLo’s Mom, but for wearing the label of “Worst Mother Ever”  for things like dropping her daughter off at a bar when she was supposed to be in rehab… yeah. Wonder if her younger kids ever use that award against her? Probably. I would have when I was a kid, for sure.

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This story is not to shame or judge Dina Lohan. Lord knows she needs prayer! Just an example to show that you are in fact NOT the worst mother in the world.

Besides the fact that you AREN’T, do you ever FEEL like the worst mother who walks the planet?

How about when your 2-year-old child falls head first, out of the cart onto the cement ground at the grocery store? Or when you get a call from the kindergarten principal saying that your kid threatened another kid with a pair of safety scissors? (pretty sure these two incidents are related somehow)

At times we all feel as though someone is about to hand us the Worst Mother trophy.

We screw up. We blow it. We scream.

We scold & talk to our precious child as if they were an idiot.

We spank in anger. We want to run away!

{I might need some confirmation that I’m not the only one who blows it.}

I can guarantee that all of you reading this blog love your kids. And I wouldn’t be going too far out on a limb to say you’d gladly lay your life down for them.

Just like we shouldn’t take all the credit when our kid scores the winning hit in the little league baseball game or invents the next Nobel Prize winning genetic code that stops cancer in its tracks… we can’t take all the credit for when things go wrong.

Moms, don’t allow your guilt to suck out the joys of motherhood. Realize you & your kids are gonna make mistakes: some more embarrassing than others ~ some with life-altering consequences.  It’s in those times that our kids need our love the most, not our shame.

We should strive to be the best examples, but lets allow for screw ups.

Tantrums will be thrown in public.

Naughty words will be blurted out in front of your MIL.

And don’t even get me started about what the kids will do! :)

Love them through their humanity ~ the good, the bad, the ugly. In that process of letting our kids be human, how about we do the same for ourselves? When you blow it, go to God, and your child, if necessary, and ask forgiveness. Teach them by example to forgive & move forward.

Release the burden of ‘motherhood’ guilt. Chances are no one is going to show up at your door and slap you with a “Worst Mother Ever” award. Unless you’re Dina Lohan. Yeah. We need to pray for that woman! :)

I wanna hear from you!

Have your or your kids done something lately that have made you feel as though the paparazzi might chase you down with an award you DON’T want? :)

Shine On Sisters!

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Go! Go! Goooooo!

Hands-On Missions Outreach

Swaziland, Africa

Beveni Carepoint Children Saying Thank You!

Here’s the thing. I don’t have to convince you. I believe God has already been tugging on your heart & putting desires in you to serve in the mission field.

God has clearly shown me that my job is not to change people’s hearts & minds, but to find people whose hearts & minds want to be changed.

Well, here’s where the rubber meets the road. Here is your opportunity. And mine. You see, for over a year now my husband & I have felt that stirring & tugging in our hearts to serve on the mission field, specifically in Swaziland. And here we are, with an opportunity to go. We’re not gonna let a little thing like lack of finances get in the way.

I believe if God gives you the vision, He also makes the PROvision!!!!

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Children’s HopeChest Swaziland Beveni Carepoint Trip

September 18th-29th, 2010 (two days to travel both ways)

$1300-1500 land costs and $1200-1500 airfare = $3000

(Totals are appx. only and on the high-end)

Land costs include: hotel, all food & ground transportation

Air costs include: airfare in & out of Johannesburg, Africa

While in Swaziland:  There are different activities the team can be involved in, ranging from work projects, house visits, life skills training, VBS, caring for the caregivers and disciplers, in addition to loving on the children! If you have skills you would like to use to serve the Beveni children and adults, let me know!

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I have all the forms you will need and can email them to you promptly, but here’s the basics you’ll need to have to me before June 24th. Yes this is quick, but God is quicker!

*Passports (a quality photocopy of the picture and signature of traveler)

*Children’s HopeChest Short Term Missions Application

*$250 per person – first deposit can be paid online with a credit card if necessary

The application & first deposit deadline is coming soon. No time to waste!

Please contact me right away if you desire to go! It’s not too late!

Danielle Brower

Danielle.moms4change@gmail.com

P.S. Go! Go! GOOOO!!!!

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Looking Down The Barrel of a Shotgun

What lights a fire in you and causes you to take a stand in the face of evil – no matter the cost?

Vince Giordano

An excerpt from Looking Down The Barrel of A Shotgun: “An orphan in Africa, Russia, India or some other part of the world is in a desperate battle for identity, self-worth, hope, and even survival. But, an orphan or child that has been taken into the dark world of trafficking enters new and deeper depths of hell. They enter a kind of despair that is a heavy cloak that is most likely to end in their death – usually not of natural causes. It would be the equivalent to drowning but drowning very slowly and painfully.”

For the full post: Looking Down The Barrel of A Shotgun

This post, written by Vince Giordano, has caused me to stop & think about the serious issues we face together as a human race regarding sex enslavement/trafficking of our children. That’s right, these issues are not someone else’s. They belong to you. They belong to me. The phrase, “don’t you have any human decency?” comes to mind.

What is human decency anyhow? Do we have the kind of human decency that will not stand idly by while millions of children are being kidnapped, enslaved, drugged, tortured, and raped daily? But instead would we courageously go head first into the danger, look down the barrel of a shotgun, if that’s what it takes to rescue them, one at a time, from the hell they live through each & every day? Or are we content to live the so-called American Dream of success & comfort by ignoring the issue?

Ouch.

Truth is many of us just don’t know what to do, or how we can help. So we don’t. In the future, Moms4Change will be sharing some information on organizations who are also looking down the barrel of a shotgun as they fight for the lives & freedom of God’s children who are victims of sex trafficking.

Please pray for Vince & his team who are going into India in a few days to find out how they can help bring light & freedom to the dark world of violence against children in that country. Do me a favor ~ comment on his blog post (at the link above) and let him know you’re supporting his efforts and are praying for him.

Shine On Sisters!

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Seizing the Opportunity!

I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble. ~Helen Keller

My husband said it’s a test. A test to see if I’ll live out what I’m preachin’ about here on my blog.

Well, I think he’s somewhat right. {By the way, he’s right 90% of the time, which can be annoying}! :) Love you, Honey!

Instead I choose to look at this as an opportunity presented to me that I can decide if I’ll live it out or see the opportunity passed to someone else. I’m seizing the opportunity.

What on earth am I talking about?

Siphiwe is being cared for body, soul & spirit through the Beveni Carepoint in Swaziland

Many of you know that we sponsor a young Swazi girl, Siphiwe, through Childrens HopeChest. Swaziland’s population is approximately 900,000 and HopeChest has 19  Carepoints throughout the country. HopeChest along with Adventures in Missions ~ Swaziland ministers to the spiritual, educational & physical needs of children in the area, many of whom have been orphaned by one or both parents chiefly due to the spread of the AIDS virus.

Siphiwe is helped at Beveni Carepoint along with 131 other vulnerable and orphaned children in Swaziland and is the gathering place where many of them get the only meal they eat for the day.

Each Carepoint in Swaziland has a Sponsorship Coordinator in the States that oversees sponsorships by sharing the needs & updates of the Carepoint & HopeChest ministry. Beveni Carepoint Sponsorship Group is an online community that stays connected to each other and the needs of the children via Facebook. Beveni Carepoint FaceBook Community Group

{Stay with me, I have a point! :) I want to make sure we’re all on the same page!}

Beveni’s current Sponsorship Coordinator is a vibrant woman named Deb Gangemi who resides in Florida with her husband and two boys whom she homeschools. She has been the coordinator for about a year and a half. She has done an amazing job at keeping the needs & heart of Beveni Carepoint at the forefront. She has lived & served out of her humble heart & desire to see all the children cared for. And God has shown Himself strong & generous, hasn’t He?

Deb asked if I would prayerfully consider wearing her shoes as Beveni’s Sponsorship Coordinator. These are big shoes to fill. I did not make this decision lightly or quickly, but at my core know this is the next step God is taking us through.

I am so honored & humbled & horrified! :) That’s right, scared.

Honestly, everyone, I am not qualified. I have no idea what I’m doing or what I’m committing to. Granted both Deb & HopeChest are organized & extremely helpful, but I’ve got a steep learning curve ahead of me.

Thank God my story doesn’t end there!

If there was ever an opportunity for God’s strength to be made perfect in my weakness, it is NOW! I can’t rely on my wit or charm or experience to do this task set before me. Therefore, it forces me to rely on Jesus and humbly come before Him (and you) to seek His heart & direction for Beveni’s children & volunteers who work with them.

Deb & Family ~ thank you for your service to Children’s HopeChest, Beveni & the children, the sponsors. But above all else, thank you for serving our Jesus from your heart. In doing that, you have served us all as His hands & feet. I know you will continue to do the great things He has called you to do for this hour! Thank you!

Sponsors & Beveni Facebook Community – I’m one of you. We have a heart to love on the children who need it most. We have a deep desire to spread the love of Jesus to the ends of the Earth. We long to be a voice for those who on their own have absolutely no platform to make their voice heard.

The vision of the Beveni Carepoint Online Community remains the same – to love, bless & pray for these 132 children as if they were our own, and to give them a hope for the future. You’ll be hearing from me shortly with information about the Swaziland/Beveni Missions Trip coming up in September. Prayerfully consider your part in it.

I am here to serve the children and you, the sponsorship community how ever the Lord directs.

This is an opportunity of a lifetime that my family & I look forward to with excitement & humility. I’ll warn you now…

get ready for a wild, miraculous, joy-filled ride folks! God’s dream for Beveni is bigger than we can imagine!!!!

Please drop a note and say hi, if you can! I’m looking forward to meeting you all!

Keep Lovin’!

Danielle Brower

danielle.moms4change@gmail.com

Moms4Change Blog


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The Nation of Orphans

Swaziland, located in South Africa has the highest rate of HIV/AIDS in the world, giving it the name

‘Nation of Orphans’

Swaziland’s general population in 2005 was 1.3 million. In 2009 the population fell to 900,000.

Nation of Orphans

There are between 120,000-150,000 orphans, which is appx. 14% of the population, expected to rapidly increase in the next two years to well over 200,000 orphans.

Much of this is due to the HIV/AID epidemic. HIV infection rate is at 44.6%. Statistics say that 70% of kids will be HIV+ by the age of 15! If you are 15, your chance of reaching 30 years old is only 6%.

I read that in the year 2020, it is expected that no adults will be left in Swaziland. Swaziland has the lowest life expectancy in the world– 28 years old.

“Pure and faultless religion is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress.”

James 1:27

Photo Courtesy of Dan Fellner; www.fellnertravel.com

May Moms4Change be a symphony of voices with compassionate hearts & hands, who will stand in the gap  for a Nation of Orphans. A Nation of Orphans that cry out for their basic human needs to be met – food, water, education, and medical treatment that they may fight against the death of their children, families & country.

Do you hear their cries? I pray that today you hear & say, “YES! I’ll be the one to help! I’ll be the voice that cries out with you to those who can make a difference. I will stand in the gap for you, Swaziland.”

Shine On Sisters!

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