Archive - May, 2010

Our Flag Still Stands For Freedom

I just attended a moving Memorial Day Service at our local school.

I was overcome with gratitude & a renewed respect for American Veterans who have given their service to protect our country & our people.

I remember being taught how to properly fold our flag when I was in Girl Scouts, but I don’t recall ever hearing the symbolism behind the flag-folding ceremony. It touched my heart & I pray it will yours as well. Today, the following was read as our American flag was folded.

United States Flag

Stars & Stripes Flag Folding Ceremony

Compliments of the Fort Custer National Cemetery

The flag folding ceremony represents the same religious principles in which our Country was originally founded.

The Flag: The portion of the flag denoting honor is the canton of blue containing the stars representing states our veterans served in uniform. The canton field of blue dresses from left to right, and only is inverted when draped as a pall on a casket of a veteran who has served our country honorably in uniform.

1st Fold ~ a symbol of life.

2nd Fold ~ a symbol of our belief in the eternal life.

3rd Fold ~ made in honor and remembrance of the veterans departing our ranks who gave of a portion of life for the defense of our country to attain peace throughout the world not to have been in vain and shall never be forgotten.

4th Fold ~ represents our weaker nature: for as American citizens trusting in God, for it is Him we turn to in times of peace as well as in times of war for His Divine guidance.

5th Fold ~ a tribute to our country: for in the words of the immortal Stephen Decatur, “Our country, in dealing with other countries, may she always be right, but it is still our Country, right or wrong.”

6th Fold ~ for this is where our hearts lie – and it is with our hearts that we pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, and to the republic for which it stands, one Nation under God indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.

7th Fold ~ a tribute to our armed forces: for it is through these same armed forces that we protect our country and our flag against all her enemies, whether they be found within or without the boundaries of our republic.

8th Fold ~ a tribute to the One who entered into the valley of the shadow of death, that we might see the light of day: and this fold is made to honor Mother, for whom it flies on Mother’s Day.

9th Fold ~ a tribute to our womanhood: for it has been through their faith, love, loyalty and devotion that the characters of the men that have made this country great have been molded.

10th Fold ~ a tribute to Father, for he too, has given of his sons for the defense of our country since she was first-born.

We fold the stripes towards the stars: for whereas the stripes represent the thirteen original colonies that founded our republic, and they are now embodied in the fifty sovereign states represented by the stars, so that the stars cover the stripes.

11th Fold ~ for in the eyes of the Hebrew citizen, this represents the lower portion of the seal of King David and King Solomon, and glorifies in their eyes the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob.

12th Fold ~ for in the eyes of a Christian citizen, this represents an emblem of eternity and glorifies in their eyes God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Ghost.

When the flag is completely folded, the stars are uppermost, which reminds us of our national motto, “IN GOD WE TRUST”

After the flag is completely folded and tucked in, it takes on the appearance of a cocked hat, ever reminding us of the soldiers who served under General George Washington, and the sailors and marines who served under Captain John Paul Jones: and they, followed by their comrades and shipmates in the armed forces of the United States, have preserved for us the rights, privileges, and freedom which we are enjoying today.

After reading the symbolism of our American Flag, may the words, “Happy Memorial Day” bring greater meaning to you & your family as you go about your holiday.

Do you have any close family or friends that have served or are currently serving our country?

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Finally! UN Outlaws Child Abuse

Please take time to read this brief, but informative article via Tom Davis’ Blog & Childrens HopeChest.

Too Many Children in our World Suffer Appalling Abuse

Today, the UN outlawed abuses inflicted on children including prostitution, pornography, and the sale of children. I don’t know why this took so long, but good for them. It’s good to see world leadership stepping up and doing their part to protect kids from abusers.

What if the church stepped up to do something radical? What if the church said, “If there are any children in the world in danger of being exploited sexually or trafficked, we will take them in. We’ll find families. No questions asked.”

That’s the kind of Acts 2 love and sacrifice that would change the world.

New York — The United Nations on Tuesday launched a major campaign for universal adoption of treaty protocols that outlaw the sale of children, child prostitution and pornography, and protect youngsters in armed conflict, with Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon calling for full ratification by 2012.

“The sad truth is that too many children in today’s world suffer appalling abuse,” he told a ceremony at the headquarters of the UN Children’s Fund (UNICEF) in New York, marking the tenth anniversary of the adoption of the two optional protocols strengthening the Convention on the Rights of the Child by providing a moral and legal shield for youngsters vulnerable to prostitution and pornography or caught up in armed conflict.

“Two-thirds of all member states have endorsed these instruments. On this tenth anniversary of their adoption, I urge all countries to ratify them within the next two years.”

Mr. Ban cited recent advances: the release three months ago by the Maoist army in Nepal, under UN supervision, of more than 2,000 soldiers who had been recruited as children; the UN-assisted freeing of children from the ranks of armed groups In Côte d’Ivoire; the prosecution by the International Criminal Court (ICC) of former Congolese militia leader, Thomas Lubanga for war crimes against children.

He noted, too, that fewer and fewer states now permit children to join the armed forces and reiterated his previous calls to the Security Council to consider tough measures on those states and insurgent groups that still recruit children. From AllAfrica.com.

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3 Life Lessons Simon Cowell Taught Me

I wonder what Simon’s Momma used to say to him as a little boy… I bet she never uttered the words, “Now be nice, Simon.”

Here are 3 Life Lessons Simon has managed to teach me. He’s that good.

    1. Nice is for Phonies – People want to hear the truth (not always about ourselves, but for sure about others!) I’d rather know what someone thinks about me any day, as have them lie to my face. **It takes guts to be honest & wisdom to say it with tact.** While Simon could work on his tact, he is completely honest and usually for the benefit of the contestant. {Side Thought: Have you noticed that people with a strong English accent can get away with saying pretty much anything? And darn it if I don’t suddenly have the urge to buy some magic household tool I don’t need!}
    2. Fashion doesn’t matter. The dude wears black, white & grey exclusively and people still like him. Goes to show you actions speak louder than fashion. If the people you’re around judge you by your clothes, you need to find new people.
    3. Be original. Originality will get you through to the next round, even when you forget the words! How many times have we heard ‘be yourself’? My immediate thought is how can I be myself when I don’t know who I am? Well, I think it starts with doing something you love without worrying what other people’s responses are gonna be. We must think outside the proverbial box. I had to do this when I started blogging. I literally had to stop caring that I might offend someone because I have an opinion. It’s not that I want to offend people (okay, sometimes). But at my core, I need to be true to whom God made me & what purpose He made me for. There is freedom in living out your originality!

We will miss you & your monochromatic wardrobe, Simon. Thanks for being your rude self all these years.

So go into your summer with a renewed commitment to be honest & original. And while you’re at it, teach your kids the same. Show them that honesty & originality matter more than playing nice. By the way, 90% of the time NICE is code for “Be average & don’t make any waves. Lie if you have to. Water your opinion down so much that you don’t have one anymore.” And then we wonder why we don’t know how to be our original selves.

I think we can all benefit from hearing other perspectives. What’s one subject you’ve decided you don’t have to be nice about?

Shine On Sisters!

ps. Give extra love to the people you hold dear this Memorial Weekend.

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Sounds of Home

We are in our new home!

We live in a small town and now in a small charming house directly across from the elementary school where my kids attend.

Next to the school, every day, every hour, the Catholic church bells sound.

I have decided church bells are one of my new favorite sounds.

They remind me to stop what I’m doing, take a moment and thank God for all I’ve been blessed with. Every hour. Every day.

Here’s a few things other sounds I’m thankful for:

  1. Parties ~ we’ve already had several parties including painting, cleaning, BBQs & birthday parties
  2. People ~ laughter & joy have filled our home. We have been astounded with everyone’s joyful willingness to help us settle in. Even my SIL is coming at 6AM tomorrow morning to weed my flower garden! That’s love, people!
  3. Silence ~ We’ve been without internet & television for nearly a week. I never thought we’d survive without Facebook & Season Finales at our fingertips. However I am loving the solitude. I can close the blinds, lock the doors & love on my boys & husband any time of the day or night. We’re not looking for some outside force to entertain us. We can just be. It’s golden.
  4. Bright  colors ~ Yes, colors make sound. They speak volumes about who we are. We painted our living room is bright green. Every morning, it gently calls me to a refreshing comfort of nature! And I feel alive & inspired to create in my bright yellow office. Gone are the neutral colors of our past homes!
  5. Freedom ~ All of this is the sound of freedom. Freedom to own a home. Freedom to raise our children how & where we want. We have this privilege that so many in our world do not have. And every time I hear those church bells, I am reminded how blessed I truly am to be living in Small Town America.

Ladies, you don’t have to keep up with the Joneses. Your home doesn’t have to be perfectly large, or perfectly clean, or perfectly decorated.

Your home is perfect because you & your family live & love there.

Today take in all the sounds of your home & remember how blessed you truly are.

Shine On Sisters!

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Berta Mae is Back… and She's Hungry!!!

Berta Mae, Research Cow Extraordinaire, is HUNGRY!

Okay, so you guys surprised me! I knew I had smart readers, but I was shocked at how many of you responded to my first set of questions regarding friendship, with such thoughtful insight.

Thank you!

Now here’s another question for you…

In order to be a true friend, we have to tell the truth even when it hurts, because lying to her (includes keeping quiet)  will hurt even more, right?

Now I know my opinion on this, but I’m prepared to be fascinated by yours.

Research Question:  In your opinion, is it okay to be brutally honest, in the context of close friendships? Another way of asking this is ~ do you value friends who are brutally honest with you? Or are you offended by their honesty? Please explain.

Keep those answers coming! Remember Berta Mae is hungry!!!! :)

In case you missed the first questions…

SOS! Research Help Needed!

Shine on Sisters!

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We're In A Pickle Here

I’d like to briefly share a big happening in my personal life. We are slimming & sizing down (if only I could say that about my waistline ~ maybe someday!)

Last year we sold a large home. My HH {Hot Hubbie} and I decided to minimize. We went from a 3,600 sq ft home with an outdoor pool & hot tub to a rented 1,400 sq. ft. townhome. It’s a far cry from Jay Shafer’s 100 sq. ft. house, but hey, being a family of four, we were happy with our downsizing.

Less space = less room for stuff.

Can I get an amen!?

We currently live with family on the outskirts of a small town. In three days we are moving to the inner city. Well, inner city of a town with 600 people. And let me tell you it’s a rough neighborhood ~ right across from my kids’ elementary school! :) Our new home is about 1,500 sq. ft., which is perfect for us. And I must say we got it at a great price!

We’re not interested in keeping up with the Joneses, or wanting to appear as though we have lots of money. We don’t.

But what money we do have, we hope to invest in our children, our community & our world.

Having a smaller mortgage allows us to do that. And we are determined NOT to suffocate every square inch with stuff. I want our home to breath.

The house was built in 1915. It was once owned by a family with the last name of Pickle.

Seriously. This is not a set up for a good joke.

So of course, the whole town knows our new home as the Pickle House! At first, I’ll admit I was mortified & determined to not live in a Pickle! But my HH told me to embrace it. After all, the Pickle House name had already been a tradition, long before we signed the papers!

What lessons can we take away from this story?

    • Purge – go through your house today. Ask yourself, “Can I live without it?” You’ll be surprised how much stuff falls into that category. And my guess, once it’s gone, you’ll never miss it. We’ll be doing this again as we move in.
    • Cling – being ‘clingy’ isn’t always a bad thing. Just make sure you’re clinging to eternal things (that includes people). Don’t let life’s stuff steal your time & resources.
    • Embrace Change – Embrace your world by stepping out of your comfort zone. Embrace & flow with your surroundings. Bloom where you are planted and grow with the rest of the garden.

Do you want to learn more about minimizing & living frugally? Here are two great bloggers with an incredible perspective on what it means to minimize & live simply. I encourage you to follow their journeys.

The Simple Guide to a Minimalist Life written by Leo Babauta

Far Beyond The Stars, 50 Things written by Everett Bogue

So I embrace the Pickle House and all the traditions that come with it. Heck, we might even paint a pickle on the mailbox!

Shine On Sisters!

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4 Lies You've Been Telling Yourself

Trust me, I got it!

Girlfriend, somebody’s been lyin’ to you!

(say that while you snap your fingers in the air, to give it that good sassy quality)

and it ain’t me!

It’s you! You’ve been lying to yourself!

Lie #1 – “If I paid for it, it’s mine.” Uh, no.

Not sure about you, but if a friend loans me a book or a shirt, I tend to take better care of it. If we’re at a friend’s house for a play date, we might say to our angel child, in our best Mommy Dearest voice, “Honey! Be careful with that! It doesn’t belong to us!” while he proceeds to rip Malibu Barbie’s blond hair out. (my kid would never do that, of course)

The majority of us do feel a need to take better care of things that are owned by someone else.

The world is on loan to us. Heck, our bodies are on loan to us. (Ouch! That one got personal)

Newsflash: All we have, All we are is on loan to us by the Creator of the Universe, our Father God. I heard a friend refer to it as loanership. Let’s begin to view our planet, our time, our possessions, our talents, our money, our family, even our own bodies as all part of the GLP {God’s Loanership Program}.

Not only will this help us be better stewards, but I believe it will cause us to be BIGGER GIVERS! After all, if I don’t own it, I don’t have to cling so tightly to it, right?

Lie #2 – “I’m in control.” No you’re not. Neither am I.

Do I have any perfectionists in the house? Holla!

Now don’t get your underwear in a bundle ~ this is not a license to throw caution to the wind and be irresponsible. I’m not talking about responsibility. I’m talking about control. This one is definitely a personal struggle of mine. I like structure. I like predictability. Not chaos. Okay, a little chaos, but it better be controlled chaos! :)

Let us come to the Father, and lay our burdens down together! He is in control today! We do not get to control the outcome of every situation, which leads me to Lie #3.

Lie #3 – “If I do what’s right, it’ll turn out just the way I imagined.” A big fat, false, fake fallacy.

Oh! I’ve been lying to myself with this one since I was a little girl. Just because we do all the right things does not guarantee us a positive outcome. Why? Because life isn’t all about me.

I was in for a RUDE awakening in my early twenties! But I’ll save that for another therapy session entirely! I believe in hard work and perseverance, but my point here is that there are no guarantees that life will bring to you the results you thought should come your way.

This is when we have to lay our desires before God’s throne and say, “I surrender my plan to Yours, God. Your ways are higher.” And each & every time God has been right! Imagine that!

Lie #4 – “I choose when. I choose where. I choose who.”

Who died & made you judge?

1 Corinthians 4: 3, Paul lets the church of Corinth know exactly where he stands on the subject of judgement.

“But with me, it is a very small thing that I should be judged by you or by a human court. In fact, I do not even judge myself. For I know of nothing against myself, yet I am not justified by this; but He who judges me is the Lord.” God is the Judge. He is the judge of you. And do you know what He judges? He judges our faithfulness to His truth! We should take great comfort in that!

There is SUCH freedom when you know you don’t have to pretend to be anything you aren’t, when you don’t have to try to keep up with the Jones or measure up to man’s unattainable standards ~ including your own.

So give yourself a dose of truth today & let yourself off the Hook of Lies that would try to entangle you & steal your joy, and cause you to be less than faithful to the GLP!

Which one of these lies do you struggle with the most?

What other lies are lurking under the surface that I didn’t find?

Shine On Sisters!

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Power? Who Needs It?

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SOS! Research Help Needed

Meet Berta Mae, Research Cow Extraordinaire

I’ve been thinking a lot (watch out!)

Besides thinking I’ve been researching.

I’ve been researching women’s friendships & what makes them work. STOP: Can I call us girlfriends, without anybody getting any weird ideas? Girls who are friends is the subject. Now that that’s settled…

I talked briefly about how one woman’s kindness impacted me last week on The Friend Ship

Yes, we are all moms. But we were first women.

And at our very core, women, we need each other’s friendship.

I believe we lead better lives when we go through it with our girlfriends!

I can read articles all day via my Google University Research Studies, but not get real answers.

So, I need your help! Over the next few days/weeks, (however long it takes me) I’ll be asking a few questions about girlfriends and how we relate to & bless each other and how we can bug the crap out of each other.

Here goes…

1. What’s one thing a girlfriend does that strengthen/deepens your relationship with her?

on the opposite side of that coin

2. What’s one thing that weakens a relationship with a girlfriend?

I look forward to hearing multiple perspectives on this subject of girlfriends. While I think an open forum is beneficial, if you feel more comfortable emailing me privately, please do so.

Oh! I almost forgot to introduce you to my research cow, Berta Mae. Seriously, she’s the best researcher ever. She finds what I need, chews on it and spits it back out just the way I like it! Whenever you see Berta Mae on a post, you know research questions are sure to follow!

I have a warped sense of humor. :)

Shine On Sisters!!!

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Good Grief, Charlie Brown

Dear God, Remember me?

Today, I’d like to share what started out as a private journal entry. My heart is on the table.

Today I feel grieved. My heart feels heavy, burdened with the pain & suffering in the world. Really it’s a good thing to ‘feel’, but sometimes good things are hard to go through, right?

Is there such a thing as ‘good grief’?

I find myself wanting to scream from the rooftops about the injustices I’ve been reading ~ about children who are stolen & made slaves for sex, or the people groups who are treated worse than animals.  All else seems insignificant compared to these travesties.

When my heart is heavy, it now pushes me to run to my Savior & seek His face. His grace is sufficient. Its been a life-long learning process for me to run to Him.

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I told a friend today that I might need to get a job just so I can support all the ministries that are ‘on the ground’ trying to meet the needs of the widows & orphans, the needs of the hungry & persecuted. I say this with humility, wondering to what extent I am called to serve. Do you ever wonder that about your own life?

This heaviness tends to happen to me when I open my mind & heart to the needs around me. Back in 1998 Mike & I took some youth on a Missions Trip to Chihuahua, Mexico through Teen Mania Ministries. There were so many highs and so many lows during those ten days. (If you’ve ever been on a missions trip, you know what I’m talking about.) I think I felt every emotion a human could feel. Shock. Fear. Hunger. Sadness. Sickness (don’t ask). Unbelievable Joy. Thankfulness. Exhaustion.

We came back to the States on a Sunday & shared our story with the church. We shared our joy, but we also shared the incredible need of the people who lived in poverty and their desire to hear the Gospel. We were beside ourselves. For weeks. Maybe even a month Mike & I could hardly function in society. Seriously, we were spoiled. Yeah, we knew that before the trip, but afterwards I felt gluttonous. Both of us desired to serve more and go where the need was so strong. In fact we even talked & prayed about moving to Chihuahua.

I shared that story because today I’m feeling a measure of that again. You guys, by now know my heart and my desire to be a voice for those who cannot cry out for themselves. Well, they are crying out, but for some of them, they believe no one is listening.

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I’ll share another story with you. I’ve been there. I’ve been at that point in my adult life where I genuinely felt as if no one was listening. Not even God. Now, of course that couldn’t have been further from the truth – I had people around me who loved me and all my physical needs were met. I was still depressed though. Deeply depressed. I very much thought I could die and no one, no one would miss me. I believed the lie. Looking back I don’t recognize that Danielle anymore.

It grieves me to think anyone anywhere else in the world would feel even a portion of the loneliness I felt for over a year. There are children who are in fact alone, having to care for themselves, find their own food and shelter. Do they hear God’s voice telling them not to believe the lie? Do they know that He is there with them in their darkest hour? I pray that they sense His presence. I believe that they do. I believe God is reaching in, scooping them up and comforting them as only He can do.

But He does that through US! I had people in my life who prayed for me, reached in and scooped me up. They became His hands, His feet, His tangible love to me.  One woman in particular looked me in the eyes and with a compassionate, strong voice she spoke words that set me on the road to freedom, that gave me hope.

She said, “Jesus is your Defender. In the courtroom, against all the accusers who tell you that you’re alone and not worth your very life, He is your Defense. He’s fighting for your life. You simply trust Him and the Judge who is seated on the throne. The case has already been won.”

Wanna know something interesting? Danielle means “Judged by God’. Yep. I never liked the meaning of my name until that day. I wanted it to mean “beautiful as a thousands sunsets” or “wise ruler”!  Suddenly “Judged by God” was now my mantra and I wear it proud! I no longer live in judgement over myself. (Though there are days I still have to remind myself of this!)

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Will we listen to the voices crying out or close our ears?

Will we be the vessel for the “Defender” to those that are suffering?

That are hurting? That feel there’s no hope?

I’ll admit that sometimes the need overwhelms me, like today. So today instead of turning away, I turn that heaviness into prayer & a call to action.

Jesus, you have pulled us out of our darkest places. Your Word brings freedom & justice. Your Word says you will never leave us or forsake us. Just as Your promises are true for us, they are true for the destitute, poor, and hungry all over the world. You have called us to bring Light into the darkness. May we let our light, the Light of Your Truth, shine and go forth. Open our eyes. Show us how to actively pierce the darkness inside that seeks to blind and deceive. Be our strength. Give us your compassion. Give us Your heart. Cause us to be vessels of your grace & love. In Jesus’ Name.

Take the time today to remember God’s faithful promises.

How has God shown Himself strong on your behalf?

SOS {Shine On Sisters!}

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An Orphan Spirit, Part One

An Orphan Spirit, Part Two

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San Jose CA… Extinct by 2050?


San Jose, CA Population just under 940,000

San Jose.

The 3rd largest city in California.

Know anyone who lives there?
Imagine in 40 years from now all the people who call

San Jose their home are dead.

All 939,899 of them.*

Not because of an earthquake, but from preventable disease & poverty.

40 years.

What would you do to save San Jose’s people?

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Photo Courtesy of Dan Fellner; www.fellnertravelinfo.com

In Swaziland, Africa

this is a REALITY.

Right now.

According to the UN statistics

By the year 2050,

the entire population of Swaziland could be dead.

900,000

Literally Dead.

Wiped off the face of the earth by

famine, disease & crimes against its children.**

What WILL you do to save Swaziland’s people?

Let’s be the HOPE to this dying country.

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Now obviously I have stretched this comparison for all it’s worth. I hope you hear my heart behind comparing two completely different cultures.

More important than cultural differences is the paramount similarity:

HUMANITY

We are all human beings deserving of safety, love, education, health care, and a future for our children. I admonish you to let that soak in. We are one with the Swazi people.

Awareness is needed. Workers are needed. Teachers are needed. Funds are needed. There’s not time to say, “somebody else will do it.”

It’s time to be awakened from our comfortable slumber and reach out with all we have (and compared to them, we have a lot), and give in whatever way possible.

Don’t allow yourself to be burdened with guilt so that you harden your heart and close your eyes.

So today, all I’m asking from you is this: Think. Take a few minutes to read further statistics below about the Swazi people, whose hope is quickly dying without the world stepping in to help them.

A crazy thing happens when we think ~ we start to question. We start to get upset because of the injustice. We start to FEEL other people’s pain & suffering. And watch out, because when we start to FEEL, we become passionate & moved (no one is guilting us) with active compassion.

Allow the fact that an entire civilization could be dead in your lifetime, to penetrate your conscience and soften your heart towards change. It’s not a popular topic, trust me, to talk about people across the world that we’ve never met. But when did doing what’s popular get us anywhere?

SOS {Shine On Sisters!}

*Report taken from 2007 Top 50 Cities in USA

**This post contain even more alarming facts & statistics The Nation of Orphans

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